Those who try to act in a selfless way are putting the cart before the horse.
Embrace the self first and then you can go beyond it. It is the ultimate
surrender to the divine within.
The beloved comes into being with the commitment to self.
He or she manifests outwardly as soon as that commitment is
trustworthy. Then the outer commitment and the inner one go together.
In worshippnig the beloved, one worships the divine self that lives in
many bodies. This is sacred relationship. Few meet the beloved in this life
for few have learned to honor themselves and heal from the inside out. *
Life is an awesome magical mystery tour, a rich and challenging adventure in which we draw to ourselves that which matches what and who we are. Whatever is challenging us invites us to overcome an existing (and sometimes limiting) belief we have about ourselves. Like the thorn in the lion's paw, those problems require us to find and remove the belief that's coloring our view of the situation. Those very challenges are the mountains in our lives that we can move.
We've all internalized what others have said to us and how others have defined us. If those limiting beliefs we hold are not helping us fill our lives with pure joy, love, abundance and enlightenment, we need to forgive them, cast them out. Often what we think someone has done to us, is really only a mirror of what we either believe we deserve or what we are also doing to another. We are either mirroring someone else or they are mirroring us.
Much of our time is spent jousting with windmills, thinking we've been injured and are consequently victims when that feeling of injury is only our perspective, our interpretation and a thought we assigned to an action which we had also drawn to ourselves. All of us are being invited to change our perspectives of being victims of circumstances, take responsibility for those events and forgive ourselves (and those to whom we assign blame) for the less than desirable events that are sabotaging our joy.
All moderm psychology (and eastern spirituality) invites us to do a thorough and deep cleaning of our beliefs with the best cleansing agent known to mankind: forgiveness. Only through forgiveness, expressed in our willingness to forgive the one whom we feel has injured us, that we are healed and empowered.
Paul Ferrini, author of the above You Tube, is one of my favorite mystical teachers. He has written the timeless Reflections of the Christ Mind series, which I love and hope will inspire you.
Enjoy.
*The Silence of the Heart, Paul Ferrini, p. 43-44.